Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Comparison. STOP Doing it.

We all know the age old saying by Theodore Roosevelt, "Comparison is the thief of Joy." And it's so true, but so many of us are SO good at doing it.


Being small business owners, we have a tendency to fall into this trap of comparison. I don't like to speak for Monica, but I think she'd back me up. It's so easy to compare ourselves to others in the same field. And you know what? It's exhausting! Seriously, who can do that consistently and actually build their brand and feel good about it? I know we can't, and we don't want to. We can only offer what WE have...and honestly, it's enough! 

I know you could argue, "Well, if you have joy, nothing really can steal it." And yes, that's very true, I get it. However, it's a slippery slope once you start going down it. It's a lot easier than you think it is. I read somewhere that comparison is not the thief of joy, that you should compare yourselves to those you look up to and just push yourself to be better, like them. 

Say what? I don't think so. I don't think it's a problem to look up to those you admire, but to want to be just like them? I think that's a problem. In my book, that's a big problem.


You can't look at someone else and compare your beginning with their middle. We all have trials and "stuff" that help us get to where we are...and none of it is perfect. Not one person is immune to occasional failures, heartaches, hurt, grief, and unhappiness. We all deal with these so very human emotions, and they can either make you better...or they can make you bitter. 

What do you choose today? I choose to stop looking. I choose to say I'M ENOUGH and stop trying so hard to be like everyone else and have their success. I want to be me. I want my own success that comes from the trials and the heartache...because then their mine, authentically. 

What are you hoping for? To be skinnier? To have more money? To be happier? To be more successful in your business? To have a better marriage? Just remember, we all have to work for those things. Success doesn't come to those who just sit there. It comes to those who work for it. And you know what? Stop looking at what you think is success is someone else's life. Work hard, keep trying, stay consistent and your success will come at the right time for you. Honestly dahling, it will! 

My problem is that I'm not very patient. I want it now. Do you ever struggle with that? If so, take a deep breath, sit back, and let your life unfold the way it's supposed to. You will be very surprised at what will happen when you just let it go and enjoy the ride.


Go out there and bloom today sweeties! Breathe in that fresh air and just bloom. You'll be amazed at how good it feels to just let go, stop comparing and just be yourself. 

We want to hear from you! What are your struggles and fears? Please, share with us your thoughts and what helps you stay away from comparison. 

Keeping you Stylish!

Danae



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